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While I love my job, I resent having to work at all. Any advice? | Leading questions
Don’t listen when people tell you about the noble value of a job, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith. Find a way to restore your sense of agency

Eleanor Gordon-Smith

20, Jan, 2022 @4:30 PM

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My son has not paid child support; I am very upset at his irresponsible attitude. What should I do?
It’s almost impossible to force someone into doing what we think they should, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith, but you can try to help him

Eleanor Gordon-Smith

12, Jan, 2022 @4:30 PM

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I am beset by poisonous comparisons. How can I stop wasting my time on them? | Leading questions
Try to covet what you already have, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon Smith, instead of feeling shame at what you lack

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06, Jan, 2022 @4:30 PM

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‘It is ruining my life’: I divorced my husband after his affair. Decades later the other woman is back
Time cannot heal all wounds, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith, but you don’t have to move on completely to leave this pain in the past

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30, Dec, 2021 @4:30 PM

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My aunt invited everyone to a family Christmas party the day after mine. Is she being toxic? | Leading questions
It’s hard to say for sure whether this behaviour was unacceptable, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith. But is it part of an ongoing pattern?

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22, Dec, 2021 @4:30 PM

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Recovering from burnout, I’ve become very self-protective. How do I step back into the swim? | Leading questions
You’ve done a brave thing by changing your life, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith, don’t let that change become its own chore

Eleanor Gordon-Smith

09, Dec, 2021 @3:08 AM

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Our long-term relationship is stale. Is this something that happens to everyone? | Leading questions
It doesn’t matter what is normal, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith, you have to decide what you want for yourself

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01, Dec, 2021 @4:30 PM

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My husband’s illnesses destroyed our savings. His well-off family won’t help us. How do I not hate them?
It is misleading to think that anger can only end in loathing or forgiveness, writes Eleanor Gordon-Smith, when anger can be used productively too

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24, Nov, 2021 @4:30 PM

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We are hosting Christmas, but two family members refuse to be Covid vaccinated. What do we do?
Try and persuade these relatives to change their minds, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith, if that does not work you’ll have to choose who to exclude

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17, Nov, 2021 @4:30 PM

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I keep leaving important work to the last minute. How can I stop procrastinating?
Procrastination isn’t a personal flaw, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith, and the more you treat it like one the worse it becomes

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10, Nov, 2021 @4:30 PM

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I am the biological father of my ex’s 21-year-old daughter. She insists I take this information to my grave
You’re faced with a very hard decision, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith, you will need to test the kind of person you feel OK about being

Eleanor Gordon-Smith

03, Nov, 2021 @4:30 PM

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I used to be a compulsive liar. Should I reach out to someone I hurt or leave it in the past? | Leading questions
Try not to apologise just to soothe the shame and fear, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith – sometimes you have to have the dignity to be disliked

Eleanor Gordon-Smith

27, Oct, 2021 @11:00 PM

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