While it is important to investigate the poor care in some care homes, please do not forget all the excellent care homes run by charities and trusts. Regarding malnourishment (Letters, 29 November), my mother put on weight after admission to a care home at aged 93. She spent the last four years of her life being well fed, warm and well cared for, with no further worries about maintaining her own home, buying food, cooking etc. For her, the Sanctuary Care home in Stoke-on-Trent was the best place to end her days, as she told me many times.
• Having taught in secondary schools in the 70s, 80s and 90s, I find myself nodding in agreement with Maureen Panton (Letters, 4 December). No doubt there were several factors influencing the behaviour of pupils, but it was noticeable that after proceedings in the House of Commons were routinely televised in 1989, there was a decline in general civility and courtesy. Is it any wonder?
Dr Brigid Purcell
• I haven’t heard people saying “they need us more than we need them” so much recently (We’re on the edge of an abyss…, 4 December). Am I on to something, or is my increasing deafness to blame?
Marple Bridge, Cheshire
• Re ‘Domestic violence is a man’s problem’, G2, 4 December), I was struck by the irony of publishing this article on the Women’s page. What percentage of your readers who aren’t women actually read the Women’s page? And why have a Women’s page anyway?
• Just a thought, but couldn’t we have sold Boris’s water cannon to the French (Students pick up French protest baton with 100 school blockades, 4 December)?
Hove, East Sussex
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