Readers recommend: can't live with or without you songs

Dangerous, destructive, but inextricably entwined, this week's songs concern relationships that can't help but keep returning

"I don't ever want to see you again! Get out of my life!"
"Don't tell me! You get out of my life!"
"I will!"
"OK. I'm here to get my things."
"Want a drink before you go?"
"Just one. For old time's sake."
"Do you want to stay over?"
"Well, OK. Just this once ..."

Dysfunctional, destructive and disastrous. And that's just the gossip that surrounds them. But like potassium and water they just can't help but react. Like a pair of ferrets in a balloon factory they simply cannot stay still. And like pair of twitching magnets, opposite poles constantly on the move, they are simultaneously attracted to and repulsed by the other. And this week we're looking for songs that centre or touch on inextricably entwined, combustible relationships, real or imagined.

A few examples of this psychological cycle? It's all part of the drama, but some have taken this so far, they married each other twice, whether that be Richard Burton and Elizabeth Taylor, Marshall (Eminem) Mathers and Kim Scott, Dionne Warwick and William Elliot, Richard Prior and Flynn Belaine, Jennifer Lee and er, well, again that very busy Richard Pryor. They taunt each other, they excite, they wind up, they push buttons, they aggravate, they know each other so well. But fatal attractions don't merely have to be sexual. Creative partnerships, as siblings or friends or otherwise can be equally explosive, especially between siblings – the Everly brothers, Ray and Dave Davies, the Gallaghers – as well as the many others who as creative friends, lovers, sisters or brothers have said they would never work together again. You can't say that! Why not? Never again is a very long time! No it isn't! Yes it is …

As usual, though any named artist may be known for such behaviour, it's all about the song itself. This week's steady hand during the storm of tempestuous relationship songs belongs to our highly trusted RR regular treefrogdemon, who will wisely pare down your disastrous but destined relationship songs put forward by 11pm BST on Monday 26 May into a results post next Thursday 29 May.

Please also note we are looking for further guest gurus to choose and publish a Guardian music list from 5 June onwards. Have a topic in mind? Alternatively I can furnish you with any variety of tasty topics to get your teeth into. Please email either or and we'll book you in.

To increase the likelihood of your nomination being considered, please:

• Tell us why it's a worthy contender.
• Quote lyrics if helpful, but for copyright reasons no more than a third of a song's words.
• Provide a link to the song. We prefer Muzu or YouTube, but Spotify, SoundCloud or Grooveshark are fine.
• Listen to others people's suggestions and add yours to a collaborative Spotify playlist.
• If you have a good theme for Readers recommend, or if you'd like to volunteer to compile a playlist, please email or
• There's a wealth of data on RR, including the songs that are "zedded", at the Marconium. It also tells you the meaning of "zedded", "donds" and other strange words used by RR regulars.
• Many RR regulars also congregate at the 'Spill blog.


Peter Kimpton

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