Alex, 32, Isle of Wight
Occupation Social worker
Voting record Generally Labour, Green on occasion
Amuse bouche When Alex was a child, she once appeared on CBeebies’ Teletubbies
Robert, 70, Isle of Wight
Occupation Artist, freelance journalist
Voting record Labour
Amuse bouche Robert used to keep rats as pets
Robert Alex arrived later than I did. I was waiting on an extraordinarily high chair, which, with my little legs, was a bit of a challenge.
Alex I was outside with the photographer. I joked that he’d stood us up but he was inside all the time.
Robert We shared a seafood lobster platter. The biggest divide was a generational one. We are both middle-class, relatively well-educated, fairly intelligent people. The chances of us falling on the floor and beating each other over the head with a croissant were not great.
Alex Robert had never had lobster. I couldn’t tell if he was a bit anxious at the beginning, or bored. He didn’t ask me a lot of questions, but in general I think he has a really warm heart.
Robert I’m used to dealing with people who are politically involved. Subjects arose about which she really didn’t have an opinion. I thought I would find an area of controversy on the Palestine question, but she said: “You’d have to educate me about that.” That’s unusual in the circles I move in.
The big beef
Alex He said: “Don’t go there with trans,” so I was like, we’ll definitely go there then. I was brought up in a very open household – my mum was in a relationship with a woman for many years. I have a lot of friends who are gay and transgender. He said that when he was a boy, boys were boys and girls were girls.
Robert It is a phenomenon I do not understand. It doesn’t mean I’m not sympathetic. I’m just ignorant on the subject of trans issues. I have known three or four people who changed sex; one who was fairly elderly, and his lifetime stammer disappeared.
Alex He didn’t talk about his own sexuality. He did say some things that were a bit “old-mannish” – something about having had lots of sexual encounters. I think he said he’d like to have more. I said, “Right, I don’t think we’re here to discuss that.” He’s not married; he could be gay, but I don’t think it was that straightforward.
Robert I’m as gay as a gang of gibbons.
Alex He really challenged my views on the vaccine. I feel those who want to be vaccinated should be: I am. But I hate the media at the moment for persecuting anyone who is not vaccinated. I understand some people being anxious about it, and don’t feel they should be labelled as conspiracy theorists. Then Robert said: “Do you think all carers working with the most vulnerable people should be vaccinated?” And I thought: “Oh God, I think I do, and I don’t want to.”
Robert I do take pride in the institution of the royal family. I was expecting her to say they should be elected, but it was the sense of privilege she objected to.
Alex They’re so far removed from anything I’m aware of – there’s nothing relatable. My husband grew up in the Netherlands, where the king was a pilot with the airline KLM, and the Dutch are so proud of that.
Alex I definitely won’t go into conversations with 70-year-olds thinking they’ll automatically have different views from me. Based on age, I thought we would be far more different than we were, and I think that was ageist.
Robert Although there was a 40-year age difference, it really didn’t matter. There were things she didn’t know about and I did, and there were certainly things she knew that I didn’t. People often have a fixed view, but our conversation was more interactive than that. Neither of us was standing on a soapbox … even if the chairs we were sitting on felt like it.
Additional reporting: Rachel Obordo
• Alex and Robert ate at Smoking Lobster, Cowes
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